Mother guilt; we have all had it at some stage.
It may even be an ongoing challenge for you. Guilt is like the dirty little gremlin that plagues most mothers all around the world.
It could be that you beat yourself up when you forget about school activities, that you don’t play with your children enough, or that you feel bad for wanting to take some time apart from them.
Mother guilt comes in many forms, but the thing that amazes me the most is how easily we can all convince ourselves of all the reasons why we are not good mums. As if our best is never good enough. But will it ever be???
What if you could start thinking about your role as a parent differently, including letting go of self-beating thoughts that encourage and perpetuate mother guilt?
The truth is, we all have bad days and we all have moments when we aren’t at our best. But truly honestly, how does constantly regretting, worrying our beating ourselves up for these transgressions help us to be any better?
It rarely (if ever) does.
5 ways to LET GO of mother-guilt
- Acknowledge that you are doing the best you can at all times
- Let go of the idea that you have to be the perfect mum – instead embrace the idea that you are the right mum for your children
- Learn to ask for help and be kinder to yourself if you do slip up.
- Stop comparing yourself to other mums and instead be the best mum you can be today.
- Celebrate the things you are already doing well, and let go of the ones you aren’t.
On-top of embracing these five simple mindsets, you can also embrace a mindset of self-compassion; a key part of the emotional self-care foundations I teach – read more about that here.
You see when we find more patience, compassion and kindness for OURSELVES, we become better role models for our children and we forgive ourselves for our transgressions.
The reality is, you may NEVER EVER be the super mum you wish you were (or think your mummy friend is) but you can definitely learn to role-model compassion and parent with an open heart for your children – something I think is much more important than being the most organised mum in the school!
If you are interested in learning more about the art of emotional self-care, you can join me at my upcoming self-care retreat for mothers where we will explore all of this in a more personal and empowering way.
I am also available for personal coaching + therapy sessions in Brisbane or online, you can learn more about working with me here.
About the author
Bree Taylor Molyneaux is a Brisbane based women’s self-care + happiness coach specialising in fertility, pregnancy + birth, motherhood + beyond. She is trained a HypnoBirthing® practitioner + personal renewal facilitator with is passion for helping women bring more self-care into daily life.
Bree coaches women across a wide range of areas, runs restorative + self-care retreats, and has a range of and hypnosis downloads available on iTunes. Read more about Bree here.