Have you noticed that it’s almost too easy to live a life in the fast lane these days?
As women have fairly full lives, I’ve noticed that many of us get so focused on moving ahead and pushing towards an outcome that we often don’t stop to celebrate until something has been achieved.
Like there is this socially accepted idea that we must keep on keeping on, and dare not loose our bundle along the way. That it’s better to push until near breaking point, even when we know that by doing so we can get sick, run-down and sometimes – at its worst – create irreparable damage to our bodies, minds and even our relationships with others.
Does this habit / pattern of living apply to you? Why do you hold it altogether and stop only after arriving at the end point?
So many people talk about enjoying the journey, but have you ever wondered WHY this is so important?
I believe it is because at our core we are humans BEING not just humans DOING. Yet that is often what our days consist of when we don’t attempt to change it … lots of doing. Over and over again, day after day of checklists, chores, projects or just getting through the week one day of doing to the next one.
So what would happen if instead, we took time to celebrate, learn and connect with wherever things are now? Would something else become more important than just arriving at the destination?
I think so.
Imagine how life would be if you could stop rushing towards the destination and instead began to really FEEL + RELISH more of the journey as it unfolds. Without it ever needing to be right, but just what is.
Regardless of where your life is at right now, easy or hard, fun or frustrating, you can give yourself permission to stop and pause. And that is what self-care is really all about.
When we decide to create deliberate moments to pause, turning within to really FEEL where things are now, we allow our deepest feelings to be our biggest teacher. Instead of waiting until burnout to realise what we already knew – that we pushed too hard, went too fast, or took on too much and have gotten off track in some way.
Self-care is about being brave enough to stop, breathe, reconnect and then to move forward in an even more integrated and aligned way. Instead of sliding across the finish line panting with fatigue, or even ending up in a crash and burn scenario.
Ask yourself now – what is stopping you from creating a moment to stop and regroup?
Is it that you think you don’t want to stop, incase the whole system comes crashing down and doesn’t want to start up again? Or maybe you didn’t realise how easy it can be to just push through because you have been doing it for such a long time that it seems natural now.
Give yourself permission to PAUSE.
Instead of waiting until completion, are you ready to do something different and dive more deeply into your present? To be here and now and appreciate more?
To fully give yourself permission to get off the train for a moment or a day and pause to reconnect with you. For if you choose to, you may even be surprised to find that life can have more bliss, more joy and how you can move forward with less effort than before. Because you are being even more true to yourself.
I encourage you to think about how you can create a little pause for downtime today, this week or this month, so you can refocus and regroup yourself. This could be through simple acts of self-care, or by making a bigger commitment – whatever you feel called to do is fine.
- Placing the hands on the body (belly, heart or chest) and feeling how and where the body is at right now, then breathing into tension and releasing with each breath. Repeat for at-least 5 slow, long breath cycles
- Listen to a meditation or guided relaxation; I have a free one here and a Meditations for mums album here.
- Put some fun music on and dance like a teenager again!
- Enjoy a cup of tea or read a book (instead of doing chores or working)
- Take a long restful bath tonight by candlelight (with a few drops of Lavender Peace or Balance essential oils + some coconut oil tossed in for your skin)
- Take some time off from work / chores and enjoy a walk in nature, preferably barefoot
- Get out into nature; you can sit, breathe and listen, do some casual gardening or just lay on your back and watch the clouds float by
- Go to a yoga / meditation / exercise class
- Smell or diffuse some essential oils; just inhaling the aroma alone give us permission to slow down and come back to the body
- Arrange some pampering / self-care over the coming week (I love reflexology, acupuncture, restorative yoga and sound healing for a few ideas)
- You can also join me on women’s only workshop or retreat
Often the most simple things which are both short and free can bring you back into now, if you will only give yourself permission to do it! All self-care starts with here and now. So instead of waiting for the right time begin now by creating a space for you to feel valued and appreciated by yourself.
If you feel called to discover deeper ways you can slow down and nurture yourself, consider getting in touch for some 1on1 self-care coaching, or checkout my online course.
Whatever you do, begin to celebrate each stage of your journey through more simple acts of self-care and self-awareness. And above all, give yourself permission to PAUSE and enjoy where you are now.
Starting with today.
Bree Taylor Molyneaux is a Brisbane based women’s self-care and wellness coach specialising in emotional self care.
She particularly supports women having challenges with conception, pregnancy + birth, birth trauma, motherhood + parenting. As a trained a HypnoBirthing® practitioner, hypnotherapist and personal renewal facilitator, Bree runs weekend and one day retreats on self-care, offers a range of wellness classes + workshops and is available for personal coaching in person and online.