Many women are yet to experience the magic and value of a “retreat” experience, but as an avid retreat goer myself I often wonder why that is?
Why does our society seem to think it’s ok to work ourselves into the ground just so we can survive financially? Why is it acceptable for mums who stay at home to be end up feeling depleted, exhausted and living on fumes?
I wanted to share a few key reasons that I believe make retreats and escapes both short and long (from 6 hours to 6 days) not just a worthwhile investment for the modern woman, but a vitally necessary one.
Fill your own cup first
You’ve probably heard it before but it still remains true – you can’t pour from an empty cup! When we as women give and give endlessly to others, we deplete our energy reserves, emotional reserves and physical health.
Because of how women connect with their partners – through love and emotional closeness – our intimate relationships suffer drastically when we are run-down and depleted. This often leaves nothing left to give the people we cherish or love the most. Just because women LOVE to give and nurture others doesn’t mean we should do it to our own detriment.
Modern women need to make time to refill our cups often, through small practices of self care, and occasionally (ideally a few times a year) for longer periods such as 2 days or more.
Balance mind and body
Breaking the habits that contribute to daily stress and frustrations are more easily achieved when we step away from our daily routines long enough to get a clear perspective on what isn’t working.
Ill health, sickness and disease can all result from an accumulation of emotional and physical habits, creating imbalance between mind and body. Stress also accumulates, preventing the mind and body from being healthy and vital, when instead the entire system is caught up managing day to day stress.
Taking a few days to reset and restore this balance is often incredibly helpful, while creating a space to remember what it feels like to have this balance again. We can then work towards maintaining this balance incrementally through regular self-care practices.
Self-care is important
Very few women today really know how to nurture themselves AND are brave enough to make the time to do it.
Imagine the small differences in each day if we allowed ourselves to be make self a priority. Because it is NOT the responsibility of anyone else (ie a partner, husband or boss) to take care of our emotional, physical or spiritual needs.
Only we can know when we are out of balance and what types of self-care practices work for us. Only we can tip the balance back again, to claim ourselves as important enough to value, and to do that regularly through small simple regular acts of self-care.
Connect with community of women
Women are naturally community oriented beings and we learn so much from each other. Through being in the company of other like-minded women we give ourselves permission to relax and remember that we are not alone in our challenges.
To dance, share, cry or laugh with other women is incredibly freeing and we all deserve to have these kind of experiences often. To make time to be in our community of women, so we are be free to just be women again.
Remember who you are
Women at all stages of life get busy with day-to-day DOING and lose sight of who we really are underneath this habitual existence. When the doing takes over it becomes easy to forget what life is like when it’s fun and joyful, spontaneous and free.
We can get so busy doing life that we lose sight of who we are when not performing a range of roles such as mother / wife / career woman / daughter etc.
Taking time to just be ourselves so that we can fully BE PRESENT again is one of the most precious ways to take a sip from the cup of contentment and feel the life-force of the universe filling your every breath.
You deserve it!!
Surely you know that you deserve to be pampered, loved and nurtured?
That you deserve time to rest and reflect, have all your meals provided and your needs catered for, so you can enjoy relishing the beauty and brilliance of living this life again.
And if no-one has ever told you then pay attention now because, my gorgeous woman – YOU DESERVE ALL OF THIS AND MORE!
As a self-care coach I believe all of these things are important and that by honouring ourselves, making time for self-care in small or regular doses we work towards living in a more sustainable and balanced way.
But while I’m here rooting for you, please know that the only one who can take action for you IS YOU.
I have a range of women’s retreats of varying lengths coming up over the next few months. Checkout my range of upcoming womens retreats – from mini retreats to full weekend escapes
About the author
Bree Taylor Molyneaux is a Brisbane based womens therapist + transformational happiness coach, HypnoBirthing® practitioner, personal renewal facilitator, mother and wife. She founded Aspire Hypnotherapy, coaches women across a wide range of areas, runs restorative + self-care retreats, and has a range of and hypnosis downloads available on iTunes. Read more about Bree here.