Ive been feeling like I want to slow the pace down recently but am struggling to find the best ways to do that with so much already scheduled in .. do you relate?
I truly believe that self care is not just about what we say YES to (a yoga class or massage), but is often more importantly about what we say NO to (ie. taking things off our plate to make space for us).
As a driven working mum, I have the habit of being productive, highly capable and organized – its the only way to get things done! But the catch is that my inner drive can also create a tendency to always fill my schedule or find it hard to say no to an opportunity when my plate is already pretty full.
Does this sound at all familiar?
As mum’s we often talk about that constant juggle of doing everything for everyone else (get the kids to school, manage a business/job, spend time with family, meal preparation, do some house work)… and lets face it, that whole charade can be pretty bloody exhausting.
After watching ‘Bad moms’ last night, I was surprised to find the movie was about a mum who labelled herself as ‘bad’ for simply giving up the image of being perfect and instead embracing some self care and having better personal boundaries. Now isnt that something we could all benefit from ??!
So I’ve been pondering how the ‘standards’ that most of us hold for ourselves to be perfect mums / wives / parents etc are rarely achievable and can even have devastating effects in our daily lives, health and marriages. Not to mention our sanity.
The desire to be a perfect mum (however we measure ‘perfect’ for ourselves) is most often our own worst enemy!!
Many mothers confess to feeling pulled in conflicting directions, which can also mean the people we love the most or the daily habits we need to stay sane can fall to the wayside.
And I want you to know that despite being a self-care coach, I too can feel that inner conflict of needing to make time for myself, not being tempted to over-give, or pushing through an endless list of To-Dos then regretting it afterwards.
In honour of this important REMINDER that all of us as mum’s need to make time for ourselves, I’m taking a few days to slow down, rest and consciously self-care. In a way you could say I’m choosing to “be a bad mom” by simply making myself near the top of my priority list.. To stop over doing it with daily tasks and start nourishing me from the inside.
As women and mothers, don’t you think its time we all support each other have some self care and make time to pause fully?
Who’s with me?? Bad mums unite!
Lets choose to replace the desire for perfection with conscious self-care and discover a life that’s fun again.
About the author
Bree Taylor Molyneaux is a Brisbane based self-care and wellness coach specialising in emotional self care for women.
She supports women with challenges in fertility, pregnancy + birth, birth trauma, motherhood + parenting. Bree runs retreats on self-care, offers a range of wellness classes, workshops and is available for personal coaching in person and online.
You can access her a range of and hypnosis downloads on iTunes or join her essential oils wellness tribe at wholesale prices here.