What is Conscious Uncoupling?

We’ve all had the experience of relationships ending in painful, abrupt or difficult ways that leave a bitter taste in our mouth or poison lingering in our heart

But what if there was another way?

I have come to believe that how we END a relationship is even MORE important than how we begin in.

Sorry what??

(Read that again)

Have you ever heard the phrase –

“Leave things better off than you found them”?

Imagine if that was something we all strived to do in our adult relationships

To leave our Lovers in a better state than we found them (instead of in a highly distraught one that takes months or years to recover from ).

Imagine if instead of ending things through ghosting or stonewalling, we could show genuine care for each other’s nervous systems by being slow and intentional in the transition.

Instead of walking away feeling confused or hurt, we leave feeling grateful, appreciative and full from the gifts that relationship gave us

Just as the Kink world teaches the concept of Aftercare, I’ve come to strongly believe that our intimate relationships require the same attuned awareness and patience.

This is what some refer to as Concious Uncoupling.

In my experience having a loving approach to closing a partnership invites care and respect be kept intact. This process also encourages a deeper relationship healing for both people (instead of rupture and immense heartbreak).

Uncoupling requires skills that most of us need to learn in relationship such as patience, slowness, attunement and a willingness to honour both people’s needs (not just the one who’s leaving).

But for me, learning to ease out of a connection slowly, intentionally and with love is not only imperative, but it ensures both parties walk away resourced enough to move forward in their lives feeling even more whole.

This may seem like a radical concept, yet for me the idea of Concious Uncoupling is both beautiful and honouring. And every time I’ve done this with past Lovers have resulted in healing endings & genuinely loving farewells

 

Being courageous enough to navigate a respectful relationship closure is not easy, in-fact it can be both uncomfortable and confronting, yet the benefits on the other side make it something I believe we can all benefit from.

If relationship is a sacred path, then every aspect of our intimate relating can teach us something, from the very exciting beginnings and flush of attraction, all the way through to a respectful closing of the container you’ve created together.

Have you heard of this concept? Experienced it? Curious to know more?

 

Yours in love

xxx Bree

 

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About the author

Bree Taylor Molyneaux is a Brisbane based Intimacy and Embodiment coach.  An emerging leader in adult relationships, she specialises in Embodiment, Self intimacy, Sacred relating and living a devotional life.

An experienced Facilitator and coach with a background in trauma & hypnotherapy, she brings over 25 years of industry experience to her private clients, group programs and workshops.

Based near Brisbane Bree offers regular intimacy workshops events & couples retreats, has many online support resources including self-paced Embodiment courses + audio products available on iTunes.