Women often think they want a nice guy, and don’t get me wrong, he has many gifts to give. Yet underneath what can appear as a surface level of safety that the nice guy brings is a hidden shadow…
He has not come to master his own power fully.
She may feel a subtle sense of internal conflict.
He seems nice, safe, respectful…
But the unspoken question is – can he really Fuck me beyond the depths of my primal desires and also hold me in my emotional storms?
Can he take me to places I cannot take myself?
And can he say NO to me even beyond my own forms of manipulation, instead of placating and pleasing me like he would his mother?
There is subtle weakness in the Nice Guy.. one he has usually hidden so well from himself that it may take her some time to really find and recognize the incongruencies.
But her body will never lie to her, and some part of her will always wonder about him.
Doubt, hesitate or ponder if he is really THE ONE.
And until he moves beyond his Nice Guy tendencies, he will never fully claim the heart of the embodied woman who already knows and welcomes both her darkness and light.
Not in the way she needs at her very core.
She yearns to be taken to places he has not yet ventured.
—- Lets contrast this to the pull of the Grounded man who knows his worth.
He has let his nice guy die, but that does not mean he is armoured, aggressive or overly rough.
It actually just means that he is deeply rooted in himself
He holds his purpose, his drive to serve, his eros and his heart ALL in equal measure
And he would bever let a woman be the one to sway him from his Truth.
Not even the woman he loves.
For he knows Truth is his compass and he trusts himself above all else.
This is part of what makes him so deeply rooted, grounded and unshakeable .. a refined version of the Bad Boy Archetype who has learnt to harness his shadows and bring them into the light.
For this man, HIS sword of truth is the refined weapon he wields daily.
And he is not afraid to use it; in work, in play, with his colleagues or with his woman.
He is unapologetic in his yes, his no, his desires and how much of himself he can give to the world.
Whereas the nice guy’s weapon is one of placation…
He still subtly over gives to women, to his work because his boundaries are not yet solid enough to anchor into his truth in the way he really needs to.
Deep down he is still motivated to keep mummy happy.
He has not yet fully cut that umbilical cord that will bring him to his knees and allow his true warrior to RISE.
Until the Nice Guy inside can fully die, he will never realise the potential he holds as a man.
And women will always sense this internal wavering in him… Causing them to feel in some way unsafe around him, even if its something they cannot put words on.
Ladies, trust your knowing.
Sometimes when you are willing to walk away from a Man who you are not a Full Heart and body YES to, you do him the biggest service of all –
You invite him to finally let his Nice Guy die, once and for all.
yours in devotion to love & eros, Bree
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About the author
Bree Taylor Molyneaux | Erotic Liberator & Devotional Union Guide
For 25 years Bree has been immersed in the fields of psychosomatics, trauma, mindset and adult relationships. Passionate about helping women heal their relationships to masculine men, Bree guides you to explore where erotic liberation, devotion and sacred union all merge.
A trauma informed Clinical Hypnotherapist and qualified Embodiment facilitator Bree has studied with many world class relationship specialists including Michaela Boehm and John Wineland. An experienced facilitator with a reputation for her grounded seamless facilitation and potent ritual spaces, Bree is an emerging leader in the field of Embodied Intimacy in Australia.
