Let’s talk about intentional celibacy for Women.
The word celibacy often conjures up thoughts of a nun who is frigid, numb, traumatized or utterly shut down. Who lives and works in a place where sex is not only forbidden, it is an act of sin..
When I use this word I am describing something different; the act of intentionally abstaining from penetrative sexual interactions with men, outside the covenant of a partnership or long-term relationship. With that said, lets jump in……
THE BIOLOGY OF A WOMAN
When a woman truly comes to understand the power of her womb, the gift of her sex and the sensitive nature of her yoni ishe will often decide to keep her pussy reserved only for her most devoted lover.
But most women these days have not yet remembered these sacred murmurings and instead have been taught to disconnect from the power of our womb and in doing so, to negate her intuitive knowing.
The womb is the most receptive, vulnerable, powerful part of a womans body. It is the doorway into the divine, the entrance to a sacred portal of pleasure and is also deeply connected to the deeper layers of her heart.
It also stories memories of every man/person we have ever received into this part of our body.. regardless of our emotional attachment to them.
When a woman is overly liberal with her sexual energy (often because she has come to believe it’s how she can be a fully expressed women) she may suffer a price that is rarely discussed.
This lessor spoken of truth is the downside / cost of such actions on a womans body and emotional state is actually quite high – especially when it begins to accrue over time.
THE IMPACT ON HER
Most women I speak with are fully aware that penetrative engagements with a man – the kind where she gives herself fully to him in that moment – will always result in her heart opening to him. A deeper bond begins to happen and inevitably her emotions get involved.
Biologically when he enters her womb with his phallus (the most sacred part of him) she literally receives him INSIDE of her. Not just physically but also energetically…
I’m talking about ALL of him – his traumas, his wounds, his fears, his projections and his genetic seed.
Therefore, when she takes a man inside of her in this way, she must be willing to take on EVERYTHING that he is offering to her (knowingly or otherwise) or bear the consequence.
I am NOT talking about creating a baby (although that is one possible eventuality)… Im talking about her innate god given creational ability to multiply EVERYTHING he gives her..
For woman is the great multiplier.
Give her a seed, she will gestate a baby.
Give her a house, she will beautify it into a home.
Give her your unresolved trauma patterns and she will amplify those too…
WHAT THIS MEANS
For men this looks vastly different – often he can have sex and walk away largely unscathed as his sexual organs are located outside of his body and have a different connection to his heart and emotions
Sure, when sharing in ongoing interactions with another his heart may become intertwined, but at the simplest biological level he is the literal penetrator.
Which makes her the receptacle.
So what is he really depositing into her?
For most women having penetrative sex even once with a man can have months and months of accumulated impacts upon her mind, her body, her energetic system and of course on her heart.
SEX is after all a Sacred Energy Exchange.
Even after a one time engagement she will carry parts of him and his wider field, within her until she is able to process, clear or purge him from the tender tissues of her womb.
The trickiest part here is that most of this happens beyond our awareness as women.
Yet the womb is not only inextricably connected to your heart, it is also deeply connected to your nervous system.. one cannot be separated from the other.
WHAT I SEE
For years now I have observed that most women are TOO FREE and liberal with the men they have sex with… yet they wonder why a high quality man isn’t choosing them for a deep union?
Ladies the harsh truth is, if you give your sex too freely, YOU are the one that pays the price … not him.
So what price are you willing to pay for a night of sexy fun? Or even several, month after month with a regular lover?
The choice I made for myself some years back, was to be much more discerning. And while this a personal decision, many women I teach resonate with it.
I invite any woman who has born the effect of such things described above to become more mindful and even cautiously protective of the energetic “seeds” she allows to enter her sacred temple.
Be aware that ‘deposits’ of any kind from a man have genuine measurable flow on effects, and there is always a price.
The price of exploring casual penetrative sex outside of a deep union is for many women I work with, just too high. Yet they fear choosing to protect their sexual energy .. mostly because they are unwilling to bear the discomfort of sexual play that is never just a one time thing.
Regardless of what her mind thinks, her biology makes this almost impossible.
**Case in point **
I know many escorts in the Sacred Sexuality space who have since realised how numb they had to become to explore sex with different men as a profession, and have as such moved away from that career path entirely.
WHAT INTENTIONAL CELIBACY IS NOT
The invitation to be more discerning sexually does NOT mean ignoring your sexual nature as a woman or suppressing your desires. You do not need to become a nun!
It does however mean choosing to express the fullest expression of your erotic nature – this sacred life giving creational energy that flows through us – with yourself, until a long term partner comes along.
It means treating your body like the Temple that is it, a sanctum of divine creation.
Not leaking that energy out with others, in places where it is not cherished, valued or honoured to the level of reverence the deep down you likely desire.
Being intentionally celibate is also not about being a numbed woman who withers away in and doesn’t feel anything… its about making the choice to give yourself pleasure whenever you want, however you want.
I believe you can be a sexually liberated woman who is erotically alive yet also contained and discerning. A woman who can honour and cherish the most sacred parts of your inner sanctum… knowing your pussy is a portal of divine making, and entrance there must be protected, coveted and earnt.
IS THIS FOR ME?
Women often ask me about how soon to enjoy sex with men they are not dating or expecting to see long term. And while I will discuss this more in next weeks Dating Masterclass my simple answer is – ladies, you must decide this for yourself.
Start by feeling into your body asking your womb and your heart how they really truly feel …. then listen deeply to the response.
One key question is –If you don’t want to be in an ongoing loving relationship with a certain man, then why would you ever take him inside of your body, knowing your womb is the most sacred, sensitive and sacred part of you??
Ask yourself if having sex with the guy who you are NOT willing to give your entire heart, body and soul to is REALLY in your highest service.
yours in devotion to love & eros,
Bree xx
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About the author
Bree Taylor Molyneaux | Erotic Liberator & Devotional Union Guide
For 25 years Bree has been immersed in the fields of psychosomatics, trauma, mindset and adult relationships. Passionate about helping women heal their relationships to masculine men, Bree guides you to explore where erotic liberation, devotion and sacred union all merge.
A trauma informed Clinical Hypnotherapist and qualified Embodiment facilitator Bree has studied with many world class relationship specialists including Michaela Boehm and John Wineland. An experienced facilitator with a reputation for her grounded seamless facilitation and potent ritual spaces, Bree is an emerging leader in the field of Embodied Intimacy in Australia.
