Something came up between my partner & on the weekend. 

If this happened to me 10 years ago, the wounded immature version of me that was driving my relationships back then would have had a literal field day –

Thrown a tantrum

stomped and sulked

bitched and whinged

Until I’d created enough energy that he asked what was wrong or things just literally exploded out of me in some toxic way .

Instead, I did my best to be the healthier version of me and Leaned in to express with Love, by letting him know how I was feeling.

I asked if I could share something with him.

We sat down face to face.

In the end very few words flowed and instead the tears & sadness just came tumbling out of me.

He did an amazing job of sitting & fully witnessing the revealing of my heart & emotions. He also did brilliantly at not getting defensive, listening when my words did eventually come

“Babe I’m feeling sad.. I feel like there’s a distance between us”

This was a pivotal moment because instead of either of us blaming or closing each other down, it bought us closer together.

In less than 20 minutes we had liberated the space between us and things had shifted drastically

We had another similar kind one these shares the following day, and again it freed us both….

More love flowed

We felt more connected

More open

More loving

More available to each other

I’m sharing this with you because this approach of leaning-in with love is certainly not natural for me!

It something I’ve retrained myself to do and practiced ALOT.

After making many mistakes over countless years of relating, I have come to learn that me expressing my hearts needs & desires in mature ways is much more helpful to the relationship than me throwing a toddler tantrum & spewing blame all over him .

But doing this also takes a willingness to be wrong

A willingness to be seen

A willingness to be humble and flawed

By choosing to make the pull of Love moving between you the thing that matters most…

Beyond who’s right or wrong, the flow of love has to come first.

To offer love when we want to close

To lean into love when we’ve been patterned to push it away

To open as the love that we are and not stand for anything less than a healthy loving connection

When two people come together with a desire to grow, evolve and deepen who they are through the partnership, the relationship becomes a sacred vehicle for both. This is the dance of what I call a Sacred Relationship.

Because trust me, if I can do it then so can you

With love Bree

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About the author

Bree Taylor Molyneaux is a Brisbane based Intimacy and Embodiment coach.  An emerging leader in adult relationships, she specialises in Embodiment, Self intimacy, Sacred relating and living a devotional life.

An experienced Facilitator and coach with a background in trauma & hypnotherapy, she brings over 25 years of industry experience to her private clients, group programs and workshops.

Based near Brisbane Bree offers regular intimacy workshops events & couples retreats, has many online support resources including self-paced Embodiment courses + audio products available on iTunes.