The truth behind sexless marriage

Loss of sexual connection can be absolutely devastating in a healthy loving relationship.

And being in a sexless marriage with someone you love is a deeply painful thing to endure. When I speak on this topic, I draw on my own personal, painful experience as a woman who did infact lose interest in sex during a long term partnership

So when I say there are solutions believe me.. I am living proof of this.

The reasons marriages loose the spark of intimacy and sex dwindles are various and can be very complex. But truly, people most often stop having sex for just a few reasons including –

Boredom or a need for more variety

Pain or discomfort

Trust has been lost

Resentment has begun to build up

Healthy communication has been replaced by blame & criticism

Polarity has died and the quest for sameness has taken over

In summary the key things that keep a relationship healthy evolving and thriving are absent.

Intimacy isn’t present-  As we try to protect ourselves or hurt the other unknowingly, moments of intimacy become fewer and far between and the gap seems to grow bigger. Eventually we are ALONE while in a relationship with another

Polarity has gone – When over time we become too much ‘alike’ our partners, the spark of attraction that brings polarity alive dies. Too much familiarity kills polarity (but the good news is it can be restored)

Trust & Loving Communication is tainted – where once loving and open communication flowed, instead snide comments that hide deep hurts, can begin to be used regularly. Suddenly the real Truth of what is present is no longer being communicated.

Resentment has built up –  Those original sparks of appreciation and wonder has been replaced by irritation, disappointment, hurt up on hurt that have not been spoken at the time, begin to accumulate.

Without these we cannot truly flourish in partnership.

There are many solutions to working through these challenges, preferably when both people are willing to work on it.

THE TRUTH ABOUT SEXLESS MARRIAGE 

Healing the Rift in a sexless marriage-

Regardless of how long you have been stuck in this dynamic, if you both desire it to change this problem and reconnect there is hope. I usually begin by working on creating moments of intimacy to open the heart and invite connection.  This can create a mutual willingness to then work through resentment and polarity will often return organically.

 

Ladies, if you are struggling with a low libido PLEASE get in touch with me. You are not broken.

Men, if your relationship in this situation please reach out for help and stop suffering in silence.

Re-igniting intimacy in your relationship is my passion I’d love to support you with some Couples Relationship Coaching and get your Love back on-track.

Checkout my offerings for couples and get in touch today.

Remember, every relationship is sacred so what are you both choosing?

With love Bree

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About the author

Bree Taylor Molyneaux is a Brisbane based Intimacy and Embodiment coach.  An emerging leader in adult relationships, she specialises in Embodiment, Self intimacy, Sacred relating and living a devotional life.

An experienced Facilitator and coach with a background in trauma & hypnotherapy, she brings over 25 years of industry experience to her private clients, group programs and workshops.

Based near Brisbane Bree offers regular intimacy workshops events & couples retreats, has many online support resources including self-paced Embodiment courses + audio products available on iTunes.